Recently I was in a get together with my just married friends. I was astonished hearing that all of them are having fights with their wives in the closed room every now and then. It is because of difference in opinion or adjustment issues with the inlaws etc. I tried to figure out the reason and came out to the conclusion that none of the couples were well equipped to handle marriage. In my coming days, I am going to reveal the top hidden secret to solve this. Now, before that today I am going to discuss a quality which we must inculcate to strengthen our selves to avoid disputes.
Why Dispute Happens In a Close Relationship:
We are living in a confluence age with a fast-paced mechanical life. In today’s life, no one is perfect and mentally healthy. All are trying to get mental security and happiness from outside character.so when negativity collides with negativity then disputes occur. We always want other’s rooms to be clean leaving ours untidy. So we must revert our approach.
We must always in a process of cleaning our negative qualities and will accept the other person without expecting him or her to be clean first. If we become inward-oriented and stop seeking approval or happiness from others, who are also empty, then our job is done.
Solution – ACCEPTANCE:
Acceptance is the main keyword, my friend. We must accept our partners and don’t poke them to change. We must work on cleansing our negativity and increase our positivity. Acceptance will boost up your positivity and enhance your endurance power. Once your positivity starts increasing then it will automatically help your partner to grow. Actions in a relationship always speak louder than voice.so the mantra is accepted and move on to grow yourself,your partner and in turn your relationship.
You might be thinking that acceptance is not so easy in real life and it’s just a philosophy. No, my friends, just be attentive for at least 21 days to practice acceptance and not react.This practice will help couples for growing up their children’s also( In my coming days lot more to come on parenting also).
Tips:
Now I ll give you a simple line to reflect on, which will act as your resource to practice acceptance.
‘We do not expect snowfall and ACCEPT the heat in summer‘. See this acceptance we all do which makes to bear the summer smoothly and figuring a way out to be protective from heat. We do not quarrel and goes on complaining why snow is not falling in summer. So if spontaneously we can accept summer then why we cant accept our partners behaviour. Whenever you are tempted and about to fight, just remember the tag line in italic and improve your relationship.
Acceptance
Conclusion:
Use Acceptance as one of the main quality to maintain a green relationship with your closed one. Practice,and strengthen this quality which can make you a super human being.
Hi Sumit,
This topic on which you wrote is very common problem now a days.And the solution is also perfect which you said.Initially it will be tough to implement but if we try with firm determination we can get success. I think we should set small terget to make it a habit,like for 1 day or 2 days I will not react and accept other one.And once we get success on it we can get motivation to maintain this for long time.And by doing this again and again it will becone a part of our sanskar.In this way we can change our own behaviour and this change will surely encourage the closed one to be changed.
Thanks reshmi…you are absolutely right.keep inspiring
Thanks Sumit for discussing one topic which is everywhere in the society . I agree with your suggestion . But as per my knowledge it should be from both sides . Otherwise one can take it as granted after some occasions and start to believe that other one will accept this things although it is wrong .
Keep continue with your valuable thoughts . We expect more works on this issue .
Thanks soumen for your valuable comment.I will suggest you to experiment on yourself only as of now.As others behaviour and control is beyond our control.when you will have expectation to control the uncontrolable then you will experience stress my friend.you cannot remove the thorns of the road,but instead you can wear shoes.thats the approach.But still keep eye on my coming article to get the answer of how to expect similar results from your dearest one.Hope i have clarify you dear.
Thanks for your reply. Waiting for your next view of thought.
Thanks SumitG for sharing your valuable LifeHacking knowledges. We all face relationship problems, to come out from this problems either we ignore the problem or end up with quarrelling. Instead of this if we follow acceptance as the Mantra of relationship we all can achieve a warm relationship.