To be parents is just not a physical event. Parenting starts from the feeling when you are expecting. Lots of feelings, emotion, excitement and responsibility and the ability to respond counts to gain qualities of a good parents.
You cannot put your baby’s upbringing in an autopilot mode after giving birth. Your kid is the most sophisticated gadget you have, so you must know the usual manual to handle it and bring him or her.
Good parenting is reflected first not in a child but it is reflected on parents behavior.
First and foremost thing is that you have to be aware and willing to work on it for the betterment of your kid to be good parent.
Now, according to my experience so far I am going to discuss the points to be a good parent. Before that , I recomend to read the prerequisite to understand your kid better.
Loving And Caring– A study of 2000 parents conducted by psychology professor and researcher Robert Epstein reveals that parents who are affectionate and loves their kids is most important in raising happy kids.
Loving parents choose to respect, encourage their kids rather judging and blaming them. It is desirable by parents to affirm their love and affection verbally and through their behavior. Parents should use positive reinforcement to build self-esteem rather than tearing it down with criticism.
Magical Communicator– To express your views to your kid and understand their views it is most important to be a good communicator. It is one of the most important qualities of being a good parent.
Parents have to observe their kids, understand their nature and ultimately figure out the best communication model to communicate for parenting.
Best parents demonstrate respect for their child by explaining the reasons behind rules, rather than simply ordering him to do as told by younger.
To become a skillful communicator, motivate your child to express his feelings and opinions which should be appreciated and valued.
Imbibing Right Skill To Tune Your Kid– There will be a lot of situation coming where as a parent you need to act as a judge to correct the misleading act of your child. Many parents unconsciously getting irritated ,scold their kids and show them inferior when they do some wrong things.It creates hatred and lowers their self-esteem. So, being a good parent its always advisable to hate the wrong act, not the child. Like wise appreciate the good deeds rather than only the child.
Action Speaks Louder Than Voice– To be a good parent, you have to be a good role model. Like other normal average parents don’t only advice and give instruction to your child to get things done. Rather practice the things yourself which you want your child to imbibe. This technique of teaching is much easy than giving only instructions.
A Good Listener– Good parents should cultivate patience which is an important aspect of being good listener. Parents should not directly jump into the conclusion just because of their experience . kids should be given the opportunity to say their versions and should not be denied.
Good Question Maker– Good parenting means parents must develop the skill to ask a good and tricky question to make their kids speak. The direct and boring question won’t work for the kids. To fetch some feelings, the parent should ask questions in a tricky way. Good parents always use this skills to identify any worry, fear, anxieties etc of their kids and address them properly.
Teaching Good Values– Apart from making your kid good in academics, it is equally important to teach them moral values for holistic growth. Good values are like assets throughout the life. So good parents must teach good values about life. The easiest way to start is to read moral stories with your kid at the bedtime together and getting involved.
All in all, to become good parents you have to enjoy a lot of activities. There are a lot of responsibilities that come along with parenting. Parents must always provide love for children, but also discipline when needed. Disciplinary actions are needed for a parent to accomplish being a good parent.
Every child is unique and needs the be handled differently.